Over these many years since the creation of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service established in 1989 many well-meaning people have suggested that I go more high-tech. The reason I have resisted is because I genuinely feel that there are some endeavors that are and should stay “old-fashioned”. Of course I have incorporated aspects of current high-tech as I am writing a Post for my Blog on my website to post on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter. Some portion of my communication with clients is by e-mail and I send pictures of prospective matches through that venue. But when it comes to interviewing clients to really get to know them there is nothing that takes the place of looking someone in the eye and asking follow-up questions. Talking on the phone rather than always e-mailing or IM’ing to nurture a relationship between client and Matchmaker.
There is a trend amongst Denver Matchmakers to interview clients in public forums i.e., coffee shops which I feel is inappropriate considering the personal nature of the questions that are, or should be, asked. Coffee shops are noisy and bustling with activity and even in casual conversation you have to yell to your friend to drown out the music, chatter and grinding of coffee beans. I fail to understand why anyone who is paying a large sum of money, or really any money, would accept being interviewed in a public place, especially such a noisy one where everyone can hear your personal business. Consequently I only interview clients in the privacy of my office where they are free to tell me what they REALLY think and feel without the concern of others hearing. I can get the whole story and not misinterpret something they said because I couldn’t hear them over the noise.
Another suggestion that has been made is that I put my clients’ photos online on my website and charge people to view them. ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! For many reasons: there are already too many online dating services; my clients are, in some cases, high-profile individuals in the Denver community and value their privacy; I do not want people selecting each other JUST based on appearance; and that is a “high-tech” approach that I am not willing to do. Matches are selected through an abundance of information as well as several current photos at the time of the first interview in my office. It is a collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker so that no information is misinterpreted and if there are questions that have not been addressed on the profile they can ask me directly. Once a client is on file I will phone them and read them the profile of someone new who selected them, again to clarify any info they may misinterpret and then e-mail them photos.
Bon Jour Matchmaking Service has been, is and always will be an “old-fashioned” service which appeals to more and more singles in this highly technical, impersonal world we now live in.