In many of the posts both on my Blog and Pages I’ve reiterated that I decline more prospects than I accept as I need to protect my clients and that person needs to fit in with the service.
This week a well known and controversial Denver personality contacted me to become a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking. First the good stuff…he’s in great shape, attractive, intelligent, articulate, well read, financially well off and recently infamous…
In some other posts I referred to the fact that even though I’ve been practicing Denver matchmaking for 25 years, on this 25th anniversary situations are coming up that have NEVER come up before…
I was surprised to hear from this particular person as our paths have crossed in the past and according to him, he didn’t see any value in this type of service at that time. So first of all he wanted to play “Let’s Make a Deal” where he offers me his service for free, pays me nothing upfront and if I don’t get enough business from it he’ll make up the difference (at least that’s what I think he said). In my experience, which is very consistent over 25 years, the people with the most money ALWAYS want to play this game. FYI, I don’t play that game regardless of who the person is. I have worked and continue to work with very high profile celebrities/personalities (nationally) and they receive the exact same fee and service everyone receives.
So this guy is legally separated and they are holding off on divorce for some “complicated reasons”. He’s been in the Denver media a lot in the past few years (and not in a good way). I could hear the desperation in his voice as he was trying to convince me that what I’ve heard and read was untrue and he is having trouble meeting people due to his infamy of late and felt that having an advocate/middleman would assist him in his romantic endeavors. All of my female clients have emphatically stated they will not meet men who are separated so before even considering him I had to contact the women in the age range he specified to see if they would consider someone in his position. I did not tell them who he is. All of them said yes, of course depending on other factors.
Well, the other factors are not good AND as I’ve stated in another post, I start evaluating a potential client from the very first phone call. He was suppose to call me back after a meeting to schedule an appointment (which BTW he wanted the next day which I couldn’t do) and didn’t call. I also sent him an email asking more information about his part of the fee and he never answered. I spent the better part of a day both listening to his rationalizations of the situation as well as contacting clients back and forth. Clients must “walk the talk” and be responsive and clearly, along with his other mess he isn’t. I was extremely professional and spent 2 hours listening to his explanations, etc. He never thanked me or responded to my last email letting him know that I was declining him as a client for a variety of reasons.
So, even though his fee was on the high-end based on his age and the abundance of potential matches I decided to decline. IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT THE MONEY in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service! It’s about having desirable, upstanding, stable Denver singles who are looking for some type of permanent romantic relationship at some point.