STILL LEARNING AFTER ALL THESE YEARS AS A PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKER

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I attended a Christmas party where there was a bevy of successful and attractive women over 55.  There are lots of interesting, attractive, fit and energetic women over 55 and it seemed many of them were there.  No, this was not a singles party, it was a house party.  When they learned that I’m a professional Denver matchmaker they asked many questions and shared their own opinions, experiences and preferences in the Denver dating marketplace.

They have all had experience on the Internet dating sites.  I was sad to see that a couple of them admitted that they lie about their ages up to 5 years younger so as not to attract men 60+.  And let me just say, they didn’t need to.  They all looked GREAT!

The consensus on men over 60 was dismal.  I’m more than used to hearing this from men about women but still getting use to the rhetoric spewing from female mouths.  They talked about not wanting to take care of some old sick guy, about ED, about lack of virility and more.  I know many men over 60 who do not fit that description at all.  Some are clients and some are friends so I know first hand not to pigeon hole people.  Women have been suffering from that type of prejudice pretty much forever, but only recently have I heard women sounding more like their male counterparts.

I have to admit it’s disheartening.  Is this mainly due to their experiences on Internet dating sites?  Or to singles living in Denver?  That seemed to be the main reference.  But when you sign up for a relationship it’s for better or worse, in sickness and in health.  Remember?????  What happened to that?  One even commented that she has spent half her life taking care of her kids and does not want to do that for some “old” man (she was the main culprit of lying about her age).

I am left scratching my head…where do I go from here trying to matchmake singles over 50 who feel this way about each other?  The most recent couple to become engaged are over 50.  She is 52 and he is 58, the perfect age difference in my opinion.

I hope that in this new year singles over 50 will be more realistic and KIND to each other when considering age range!  Happy Holidays from Bon Jour Matchmaking Service!

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