I heard a story on the news yesterday about a way to fast track your love for someone. I know we live in a society of quick fixes and immediate gratification but not all things should go that way. This particular gimmick was pages of questions for 45 minutes and then staring at each other for FOUR minutes to create intimacy.
Is it really necessary to create intimacy on the first meeting or date? The usual recommendation for a first meeting is not to get too serious about any subject. It is a preliminary “date” to see if there is a reason to pursue. That is more of a feeling than an inquisition! Reading through this site you will see that Bon Jour Matchmaking’s philosophy is quite the opposite.
I also realize there are times when there is love at first sight that can be long lasting. I’ve seen it with clients and in my own family. But that is not the norm. Not everything is a quick fix and especially love…this new gimmick is just that. A way to get the media to pay attention and do a story, which they did. So they have accomplished their goal. Clearly the goal was not to genuinely advance love and connections between people.