Michele’s Blog

I DEAL IN REALITY

This service deals in honesty and reality.  If you are calling to hear someone only confirm what you think this is probably not the service for you.  I accept or reject clients STRICTLY according to the preferences and criteria of my clients.

A woman called this morning and when I asked her age (63) she right away said I DO NOT WANT TO MEET MEN THAT AGE.  I LOOK GREAT AND THEY WOULD NEVER KNOW MY AGE!  My answer is first of all I’m not accepting women over 55 at the moment because men in that age range often want to date much younger women so obviously they are not going to go to 63 regardless of what you look like.  She then proceeded to tell me how superficial my men are after just declaring the EXACT SAME THING!  She wasn’t going to give anyone near her age range a chance…because she wants what she wants…no different than the men.

I merely try to explain my clientele, compare it with what you are looking for and tell the truth.  I know that is a novel concept these days but I actually tell the truth as it is at that point in time.  My experience with both men and women is they want what they want for the most part.  If I find that not in line with my clients or unrealistic I will suggest this is not the service for you.

Even after 28 years I’m still learning about people.  Many people just want someone to agree with their perspective and if you don’t they get mad.  If that is you and you don’t want the facts and the truth save yourself a phone call and I wish you the best of luck.  There are tons of local services who will gladly say whatever you want to hear to get your money…

DON’T SHOOT THE DENVER MATCHMAKER (MESSENGER)

If you read through the bulk of the reviews of many Denver dating services and Denver matchmakers you will see a consistent theme.  That the people who used them were not introduced to people who fulfilled their criteria and preferences.  That is constant across the board…except for Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.  Don’t think there’s even one review stating anything like that!

So, after 28 years and an established clientele and as a REAL professional Denver Matchmaker, the fact that I interview every single client allows me to know without a doubt the types of qualities my clients are searching for in a mate.  That is TOTALLY dictated by the clients, I HAVE ALMOST NOTHING TO DO WITH IT!  To achieve what they have hired me to do I need to have the types of clients who fit their requested criteria.  So when people call who are outside of that and I know that emphatically, it would be unethical for me to accept them as a client.  Unethical both for my current clients and for a prospective client.  Is that a really tough concept to grasp????  It seems so…

Yes, during the FREE phone consultation I will ask questions to qualify you just as you will ask to qualify me.  But I don’t make the rules of who is and is not a fit.  That is strictly done by the clients.  That is why Bon Jour does not have reviews like the other services about clients’ criteria and preferences not being followed.

My own criteria is whether you “get it”…the structure, philosophy, concept and whether you and I will work well together to achieve your goal.  So there are a myriad of reasons someone may not be a fit…if I accepted everyone who called I’d be a millionaire ten times over, which I’m not.

YES, THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER ACTUALLY TURNS DOWN INCOME

In the past two weeks I have declined to work with about 10 singles who called for Bon Jour Matchmaking.  In case it is not clear that means I turned down a minimum of $20,000 in income!

WHY?  It’s called being ethical.  I know that is a foreign term in these days of greed, but after 28 years of Denver matchmaking with Bon Jour being so specialized I know from interviewing EVERY client their preferences and flexibility.

Sometimes you absolutely can’t win even when you are trying to be honest and ethical.  One of the women I declined (“Olimpia”) wrote a nasty review on YELP.  She should have thanked me for not lying to her and taking her money knowing she would not be successful specifically in this service NOT the whole world…this service!  EVERY time I decline to work with someone that effects my income, every time.

My clients make it perfectly clear what they are looking for in a mate which includes physical traits obviously.  My women are clear that they prefer men 5’9″ or taller with comparable educations and income to theirs.  My men specify no women larger than a size 10.  That’s just the way it is.  I wouldn’t be much of a Matchmaker or business woman if I ignored their criteria or preferences like most other Denver matchmaking services (read their reviews).

There are many, many reasons that I decline to work with someone and height and size are only two of the reasons.  Read through the list of things that make someone a poor candidate for Bon Jour.

If I sound angry you bet I am.  If “Olimpia” had been a client and I had lied to her about her success that would be a legitimate reason to write a bad review.  But to write a bad review because of her hurt ego when I was honest and ethical is ridiculous.  This is the kind of attack that makes me consider whether I want to continue doing this.  Again, I turn down thousands of dollars a year in an effort to be ethical and not take advantage of vulnerable people!

There are many reasons Bon Jour is unique and ethics is just one big reason.