UPDATE: So Alan Goodman sends me an email from a fake address saying I should expect a check in the mail. I guess he spoke with an attorney who advised him about the contracts he signed. Remember, he spent 30 minutes changing my contract to suit him. I received a lengthy letter with many stipulations if I cash the check. He told many, many untruths in this letter. This guy wouldn’t know the truth if it bit him!
Just FYI…the second year I was in business a client stopped payment on a $35 check (the introduction fee) and I hired an attorney and chased her for 3 years to go to court. I won and for triple damages AND INTEREST for 3 yrs.! So what do you think I would do for a $2900 check? I adhere closely to my contracts and so should you.
Anyway, as I said below when he signed the contracts he scribbled his name illegibly. Well his name was not scribbled illegibly on this letter or check he sent. So obviously he had no intention of following through! He just wanted to see who I had as clients and then stopped payment on his scribbled check. I didn’t even take his check until 90 minutes into the interview!
In this letter he made many, many demands if I were to cash this minimal check which HE decided should be my worth! Mainly wanting me to destroy evidence that he actually became a client in case he decides to pursue this in some way. This guy is a total nightmare! Remember he is a financial advisor…don’t accept a signed contract or check from him with a scribble for his name. Make sure his signature is legible.
This guy calls me about a month ago named Alan G. who lives in Boulder is a financial advisor and is age 55. He’s so excited about what he read on the website and about working with me. Makes an appointment for the interview then shortly before that day cancels but in short order reschedules. So he has a month to ask questions, read through more of the website, etc.
I work from home to mitigate overhead to keep my fees lower than other Denver matchmaking services or Denver dating services so when I expect a client it is a process with my puppy and cat as well as I do not have a cleaning team (I do everything) to get ready for a new client. It is a time consuming process not like stepping into a clean office that a cleaning crew cleaned overnight. I want my clients to feel that they matter to me and I show that by the way I present my home, office as well as myself for their interview.
He comes in and the first thing he does is change my contract. He clearly was not going to sign it as I’ve used it for 29 years so I decided to make some changes geared towards his comfort level. WHO DOES THAT??????? But I did. Spent the whole first 30 minutes on that. He tells me he’s skittish (not the right word but can’t remember it) about the process. That he hasn’t dated that much. BTW, when I asked what services he’s used before he lists several internet dating sites. So obviously he has been dating to a great extent.
So instead of coming right out and just saying he wants a younger woman, which he should have just done in that very first FREE phone consultation, he dances around it and everyone I showed him was too old or not his type. Although he’s tall he’s a slim, small boned man so I guess women who are not tiny intimidate him. He bugged me about presenting his profile to women even if they stated their age range was way under his age of 55. Well I can’t do that! If there is a 2 or 3 year difference I can do that but more than that is not respecting the criteria and preferences set forth by my other clients. If you take the time to read reviews of other local matchmaking/dating services the one common complaint is that they were not set up with people who met the preferences and criteria they set forth. This service is NOT like that which I explained repeatedly but he insists that because he looks a bit younger than his age and is thin that he deserves a younger woman…
Well some of his challenges besides that were his location and his daughter as well as the fact he is not interested in having more children. So just those things would preclude some people from meeting him. So he sends me an email tonight reiterating that he strongly hopes I will present his profile to women regardless of their stated age preferences. Again, I cannot do that! So I reiterated what I’ve already said numerous times today. He writes back and says to tear up his check and he will not post negative reviews about my service. He threatened me! So after dealing with this guy for a month, wasting 2.5 hours today, changing my contract for him, showing him confidential profiles he expects me to tear up his check.
Since business owners don’t have a venue to post about their lousy clients I have to post this here. Hopefully you will glean the correct information from this.